Here I find myself again, browing through clothes on my phone. I must have seen hundreds of items in the past days. And for what? I made a promise to not shop until September, so why am I doing this to myself? I didn’t realise this until I stopped, but I’m addicted to shopping.
Being surrounded by an abundance of useless stuff makes me feel uncomfortable. I don’t want to want it all. And while I can stop the constant buying, I can’t seem to stop the constant browsing. I feel like I’m on a diet and wanting to eat a giant stack of donuts. Torturing myself is so pointless and yet it’s a habit that apparently is incredibly hard to break.
As embarassing as it is, I came to the conclusion that I’m addicted to shopping.
I’m at the point where I’m aware and willing to make a change. But first there were a few things that I really need. No joke, I really do. Our summer is much colder and it rains all the time. So before I’m going to commit to no more shopping and browsing I first have to make sure that I have everything I actually need. Last weekend I ordered what I needed so that I will now have absolutely no excuse to not look at anything new for a while.
A few ideas that I have to keep me from grabbing my phone and adding stuff to virtual baskets:
No phone after 8 pm
With no easy access to internet I take away the temptation of going online and do some virtual window shopping. I’ll bring it upstairs so it will be out of sight.
Get something to read
Reading is much more focussed than watching a movie.
Plan a games night with my husband
We don’t so this often enough. With a glass of wine and a cheese plate I doubt I have any urge to even think about clothes.
Pick up yoga again
I wanted to do this anyway. Making time for a weekly session on Friday after work to close the week has been on my mind for a while. It’s time to make that time now.
From ALL newsletters (and delete apps). The fear of missing out on a good deal can be paralizing. There’s always a better offer. So what? Let it be. I’ll buy something when I need it.
Buy NO on the go snacks and drinks
If I want something I’ll have to remember to bring it with me. If I forgot I’ll just have to wait at home. I’m affraid I might want to look for my ‘fix’ elsewhere and start buying drinks and snacks. That is bad for my wallet, my health and doesn’t really help me to get rid of my shopping addiction. Committing to this goal is therefore important.
A week vs a month (or longer)
The first time you do something different is the hardest. Every time after that will get easier. To make that first step a little easier I’m committing to a shorter period first. If I can get through a week I can get through another. And another, and another.
It felt a little silly to write this when I claim to live a simple and meaningful life. The truth is that I’m still learning and I hope I never stop. I got to know a side of me that I didn’t even know was there. I don’t like what I see so I’m going to do so something about it.
Wish me luck!
– X Marloes
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